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Nudism and the Single Male

Singles welcome??

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Single males are often the orphans of the nudist community. Men can be singles at a nudist venue for a number of reasons. They may single unmarried, married without a nudist practicing spouse, divorced, or widowed. Whatever the reason because of the actions of a few single men are often tainted as trolling for sexual partners rather than being true nudists. The plight of the single male nudist has been well chronicled, but on a couple recent visits to resort I found myself connecting with a couple of men who were there by themselves like me. In the course of conversation they got talking about how hard it can be for single men to fit in at a nudist camp/resort. We are often regarded with suspicion at nudist venues, some “upscale” resorts don’t even allow single men. Regardless the reason for being single, all of us tend to be lumped into one group. Recently while browsing the web site of one nudist park I came across one line in their FAQs on their website regarding welcoming singles.

“your behavior is your passport”

While I get what they mean, and men were not specifically mentioned, it was hard to not draw the implication you single males better behave. My first thought was “shouldn’t that be true for everyone at a nudist resort/campground?”

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Last time I stayed overnight at a nudist campground I ended up in a kind off singles row. I bunch of us “single” guys were camped in a line. Now As a singe male in a social nudist situations, knowing the perception I usually interact with folks only if and when they indicate an interest in interaction. One of my biggest hesitations with pursuing social nuditywas the sense that as “single” black male i would come under extra scrutiny. So as not create any suspicion with couples or families I tend to just say only and then wait to be spoken to. Now I have had situations where couples and women have been very friendly and conversational and other times when interactions have been few and far between. So I always bring a good book and some magazines to read.

On this occasion it was a group of guys all in the same boat, so we readily shared greetings to make some connections. Over the course of several different conversations the men talked to me about how lonely it felt to come to a place where they could be not but have no one to interact with because they were ‘single’ males. One guy talked about bring along a female friend who just wasn’t into it and didn’t want to return. Another shared how trying to group dance with some other women created a problem for them and him. That was in his words him only negative experience. One other fellow talked about being extra friendly to everyone to find someone to hang out with. So what’s a single male to do?

Some folks say bring a female friend with you and introduce her to nudism. This brings a whole new meaning to the phrase ‘friends with benefits.’ Others say if your spouse is not a nudist and won’t go to a nudist camp with you then don’t go. This leaves those folks to the mercy of the nudist purist who say if you aren’t social you aren’t a real nudist. Another perspective is to just buck up find a camp or resort that is accepting of singles, go, be yourself and enjoy. None of these is really a perfect solution. I believe unfortunately there really isn’t a perfect solution. There will always be trolls and people will always react to that as they should as the behavior can’t be ignored. I certainly don’t want to be hit on or see anyone get hit on. But unless more people in the nudist community think creatively about the situation of single males in a changing nudist world those of us finding ourselves in the predicament will have to make our way as best as we can being aware of the stigma while still being ourselves. If you are a single male nudist, share your experiences.

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21 thoughts on “Nudism and the Single Male

  1. This is exactly why I have yet to join a nudist camp! I don’t want to be mistaken as “that” creepy – perv guy…

  2. I am repeating this but I hope that it wasn’t here. I’m a retired primary school teacher. Some of us nudists/naturists volunteered to pose naked in front of the then, latest VW. The idea was to show in the ad that bodies of all shapes and sizes could be accommodated in that car. I guess there were about (?) 20+ people and we spent half a day sitting (me) or standing naked, while being told to ‘smile’ or ‘not smile’, in a building, where, every so often someone would open the door from the front office to see what was going on. They could see that a weekend or so later in the double full-page spread of the two Sydney Sunday newspapers. Including of course my ex-pupils and their parents, who had known me as a “chalky” during my 37 years of teaching!! All good clean fun!!

  3. I am so glad to find this article. In my situation when I married the girl I had introduced to nudism backed away from it after we moved to another city and another Province, So I was left high and dry, I had no choices available to me after the rules of the local club ((no single male) were applied. After 45 years of marriage it still rankle me. Now, after a life of abstinence it is a major confrontation if I choose to go on naturist vacation. We had 2 weeks away in 2014, and i am planning another one this year, I have decided that I will go, regardless. I feel starved of sunlight, for me it is almost a religeous experience.

  4. I just think it’s an interesting assumption that married couples are a safe bet where nothing fishy or questionable would ever arise from either or both parties in a coupled situation.

  5. my only public nude experience has been the nude beach, specifically, Haulover Beach in Miami which I love. The stretch is vey interesting, one one end, I noticed mostly women, towards the middle were couples, singles, etc…and the other end all men – draw your own conclusions. But I could appreciate how everyone seemed to be considerate of everyone else’s personal space…mostly. Haulover is a clothing optional beach so there are always clothed beachgoers as well. Curious, I guess or just wanting to see naked people, more than likely or just not yet comfortable with getting publicly nude but working on it.

    as for nude resorts, I’ve looked up a few online: looks interesting but outside of places like Hedonism, I would probably pass on most of them. I just finished reading someone’s review of the Carnival nude cruise and that would be something I MIGHT try although I am kind of cruised out, that would get me back on a ship.

    I tend to not bother folks so unless they approach me to be social I mostly ignore everyone which I don’t normally do when clothed. So it is a bit stifling but like any other nude single guy, I don’t want to be mistaken for a pervert or sexual predator altho I still enjoy the nude sites just like I enjoy the sites at a on-nudist beach.

  6. I really don’t even find it an issue. I’m not going anywhere I am not welcome. There are plenty of resorts that are friendly toward single males which I am now one of them. Do your research and I’m sure you will find them also. It helps to be a member of a recognized organization as well such as AANR, TNS and others.

  7. I live in Halifax, Nova Scotia. I consider myself a naturist, but outside of my own apartment the only naturist activity I can participate in is the occsional summer visits to the local nude beach. There is a local naturist club. Despite the fact that many of the members know me from the beach, I cannot join the club because all men must join with a woman (a relationship with that woman is not needed). All my female naturist friends are already in the club, so I’m left outside.

  8. If a non-nudist person find out that you are a nudist/naturist, you are classified a pervert, but in European countries,so what,no big deal.Nudist place there are not hidden, but may be next to a farmers field and/or persons garden.

  9. I went to montalivet this summer and was well received by everybody,they accept you for what you are a naturist.

  10. First things first; Mr. Avery, your plight isn’t unusual and if you’re interested, there’s a listing of Christian naturist groups, websites, etc at the following link. From what we’ve heard they’re legit and you may find some support there! http://all-nudist.com/2012/05/11/christian-nudists/
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    Back on topic! You’ve got it right, and there’s little that can reasonably be done about it. I read an article from the 1940’s describing exactly the same situation with the same reasons and with no remedy in sight. back then.
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    For reasons including the ones you discussed, single men are simply not a greatly desired commodity by the majority of the people who use most venues. As nothing more than a matter of economics, it’s those people who pay the bills and often own the venue. They go there to be comfortable and things which make them uncomfortable aren’t welcome. Many clubs are private so as to be even more discriminating in their choice of social companions.
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    One thing, I wouldn’t be too concerned about that ‘passport’ sign, that’s a pretty common reference to expected proper behavior in many social situations Textile and nudist. It’s a less formal way of saying ‘regardless of race, color, creed..etc.’ and is intended to both let you know that you are welcome, and to remind you that how long you’ll be welcome depends on you. Whether it’s true or not is another question!
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    And I apologize for the link if that’s a problem, it seemed appropriate this time.

    1. Thing is it is still a real experience for him in his situation even if there are web sites or groups out there it can still be isolating to not be able to share your interest or participation in nudism with those with whom you share something as deep as faith.

      So it’s a little more complex than just finding some folks on the web.

      Still you have given me an idea for my next blog.

  11. I know where you are coming from. I was a newbie while I was still single. My first trip to a resort was much like you describe. After a while I just quit worring about it and folks started talking to me. Just be yourself. Give others a chance to see you are alright. I think one of the things that work for me was striking up a conversation with one of the managers. Once the other members seen me talking with her they seemed to melt a little.

    1. We are pretty involved in our church and to top it off I work for a christian company so I have to be very careful who I talk to about my “Clothing Preference” so yes I know exactly where you are coming from.

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